PSEUDO RELATIONSHIP

Has anyone heard the term Pseudo relationship? Pseudo is a greek word which means, pretentious, false, fake. so, Pseudo Relationship is best described as a "relationship without commitment". it's "almost like a relationship, but not quite". Not quite in a sense that, You do almost everything a real couple do but there is no commitment involved. Just mutual understanding. It's just like friends with benefits..

Pseudo Relationship happens for different reasons, commonly, it's were every relationship starts. When you started as friends, you fell for each other, then there would come a time that both you, unconsciously, would start to be more comfortable with each other, that even without the courting stage or that verbal agreement that you already started your relationship, it's like your actions comes out naturally that when other people see you, they can't help but ask about your status. Then suddenly, you'll just smile, saying "Were just friends". Everything you do would not directly affect the other because eventhough you seem like lovers, you are not. In a way, you are still free. Having the chance to be with someone, be happy with someone, be sweet with someone, but at the end of the day, You would got yourself thinking, "Is he/she serious about me?" You are lucky if after investing real emotions over someone under a pseudo relationship, You both managed to go in a serious relationship.. BUT WHAT IF NOT?

Imagine yourself falling for someone whom you thought is serious when after you being faithful with him, not entetaining others, You'd just find out that he just treats you as his friend? That he is inlove with someone else? How could you be jealous when you don't have the right? That while you're so much attached with him, he suddenly gets cold? Well, You can't be that angry, after all, there is no "US" in this kind of relationship. It's just "YOU and ME".

Anyway, another reason for having this kind of relationship is after a break-up. You still both love each other.. You still both want to be with each other. But still, you broke up for a reason, and for that reason, It's too much complicated for you to get back together.. It's just really hard to let go of someone who had become a big part in your life. and for that reason, You can't manage to let go because of too much care and concern. But then, Having this kind of relationship means allowing ourselves to make the same mistakes that we did that lead us to that "break-up". The more you stay with it, the more you hurt yourself. It will just give you another false hope that you could still be happy with him, bring back all the memories, and eventually tries giving your relationship another chance, only to find out that he is in another pseudo relationship with someone else. and by that time, you were not anymore in the position to burst it. At the end of the day, everything gets more depressing. sad? but true.

Not all Pseudo relationship ends up in pain, But surely, you don't have any other choice, in the process, but to get hurt. So you must be good in concealing how you feel. After all, there is no such thing as a "Pseudo pain" only "real pain" under real emotions...